Birthwork and the People-pleaser Masterclass
You’re a doula or birthworker and you’ve spent months helping your client become educated about physiological birth and the way the maternity system intervenes. You teach her the tools to advocate for herself. You see how excited she is to have the birth of her dreams, and then …
She ends up going to the 36-week scan she didn’t want.
She says yes to the induction she knows will ruin her birth.
She lets her mother into her birth space even though she doesn’t want her there.
She agrees to have her waters broken when she knows it will derail her birth.
She calls the midwife even though she doesn’t like her or want her there.
She doesn’t tell her husband that she doesn’t want his mother visiting the first day.
Does this sound familiar? Do feelings of frustration creep in, even though you support a woman to choose for herself? Do you go over and over what you could have done differently to help her stick to her plan?
You aren’t alone. It can be utterly demoralising to see women end up with births they don’t want, choosing the things they were sure they’d decline, giving in to care-providers even after you’ve reminded them of what they truly want. Especially when you pride yourself on helping women get the births they want - after all, isn’t that why they chose you?
Women have been subjected to life-long conditioning that makes them believe it is their job to keep other people happy, and this shows up ferociously in birth and mothering. This is what turns a no into a yes. This is how self-betrayals happen and plans crumble. And because people-pleasing is complex, life-long and its tendrils run extremely deep, it’s not as simple as just saying ‘let’s stop the people-pleasing’.
Birthwork and the People-Pleaser Masterclass will break down what’s really going on when women undermine and betray themselves. You’ll discover that you don’t need to keep scrambling to figure out how to help her stick to her plans. As a doula or birthworker, this masterclass will give you the know-how to help women recognise and interrupt their people-pleasing patterns – so they can stop saying yes when they want to say no, and go on to transform their births, and their lives.
I’ve been having these revolutionary conversations with women for many years, and I’ve seen the incredible changes it can bring.
Join this live masterclass on Wednesday, 20th May at 6.00pm ACST. You’ll have time to share your questions. I’d love to see you there!



